Busayo Oyewole

Writing is designing with words

Let it be and other lessons 😭 🤷‍♀️

Someone asked me what my new year resolution was. I replied, let it be.

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Moving on after a big, gigantic, colossal fuck up 😩 🤦‍♀️

This was a new low for me. At 10 PM on a Tuesday night, I rang on an ex's door, a week after he broke up with me. WHAT. THE. ACTUAL FUCK????! I still can't believe it.

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Between my dishes and me 🥣🧼

I'm not a medicine man, but I have this deep sense that my dishwashing habit is now very symbiotic to my mental state. Two unrelated organisms orbiting each other's space, relying on the other for wholeness. When everything is in order, I tend to do my dishes immediately after a meal. When things are less than ideal, unbalanced - at work, extracurriculars, or in the way my body moves in this world - the plates fester..

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Do you really notice the women in films? 💁‍♀️

I find myself asking ‘what would Jessica Pearson do?’, ‘how would Wendy Rhoades handle this?’ a lot more often now. Because it’s becoming apparent to me, that like it or not, these shows are a reflection of our society - the male-dominated society that we live in, in which power, the real kind of power is willed by men...

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Akomona: my watchword for 27 🥳

27 feels different from all the previous ages combined. I could tell in the way my mother wished me happy birthday, asking what was next now, subtly and not so subtly hinting at the next logical choice for women in their late twenties. I could tell by the simple arithmetic of 30 minus 27; the result so less than, yet so dangerously weightier than 30 minus 25. At 25, anything seemed possible; at 27, anything is possible *but* within a time limit.

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An ode to David, the good guy 😑

David is a good guy. You would know this, because he tells you so. He beats his chest and says he’s unlike Jackson, the arrogant ass. Unlike Tim, the pompous fool. He reels you in with a warm smile and...

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A designer's guide to git 👩‍💻

Imagine there’s a part of your company’s web app you’ve recently redesigned to improve usability. It’s an important change, something that will save the customer support folks a few calls, but the developers are busy with the sprint and can’t spare the time. You, on the other hand, can manage the change since you are a CSS guru and a designer who knows the implication if the change doesn’t go out with the next release. You get a go-ahead from the product and engineering managers, who say ‘go make the change!’ How do you make these changes and work collaboratively with your teammates without messing things up for anyone involved?

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Life and the quest for meaning ✨

Man’s search for meaning is a psychological memoir of a prisoner of war. It’s an attempt to make sense of the suffering witnessed and endured at the concentration camp. But even Dr. Frankl couldn’t accurately do justice to that. There was no sense in the killings, the starvation, the torture and many unimaginable things that went on at Auschwitz and other internment camps.

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